Angstrom Is An Asshole
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infinitycrush:

blatant racism + institutionalized racism + the concept of masculinity = united states police force

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I really really wish this were true, because we need something like this. 

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Ignoring in a D/s realtionship

southernalphawolf:

Let me start this off by saying first and foremost. You Do not use ignoring for any period of time as a punishment.

In a D/s relationship there are a multitude of ways you can as a Dom, punish your submissive. Whether they be your pet, little, sub, slave, anything. There are many many good ways you can punish them. You can do pain to a point, take away orgasm, take away their favorite junk food, you can sit them in the corner, you can make them write lines, you can do so many different things that will show them You are their Dom and they are yours. They belong to you and will know better than to disobey you.

One thing you Never ever do is ignore your submissive. If you are angry and you can’t even speak to them. It must have been pretty intense, but you tell them “Hey I need a bit of space I have to clear my head I will talk to you in a bit” That way you can go and relax and take a breather and assess the situation. You do not think “Okay I’m going to ignore her for 4 days” And Honestly in a D/s relationship. The punishment HAS to fit the crime. If my baby girl back talked I wouldn’t make her do something that has nothing to do with what she did. I had a friend who joked with her “dom” in a serious conversation. What did he do? He ignored her for 4 days. And texted her the morning on the 4th day saying her punishment was over.

I am pretty sure any real Daddys/Mommys, Dom/mes, Tops, Masters/Mistress, anyone right now who has been a Dominant is angry with that up there. He did not tell her he was going to ignore her. He simply stopped reading and replying to any message she sent him. As any of Us know. that is completely and utterly WRONG. I talked to 2 of my switch friends and they both said the same thing. This guy was no Dom he was a “dom” Playing on this submissives emotion. When I said to my friend she should tell him how she feels she replied she didn’t want to upset him and get punished more. Now..as a Daddy my little girl knows to fear when I am mad. But she knows if she has any fear what so ever, any pain, anything she is to come to me and talk to me and we will discuss anything without punishment. My rule is literally “3. Any and all concerns must be brought up, with no fear of punishment.”

Now here is why you do not use ignoring as a punishment.

It is emotionally hard on the submissive. If you don’t tell her what is going on she is wondering where you went..if you abandoned her. I know most submissives myself included are very needy. And it’s not a bad needy. It’s the need for their Dom. It’s the want to hear them and know that they are there for you 24/7. When you cut that tie as a punishment you throw up a red flag saying that you are not a dom with experience or at that moment care for your submissive.

When you ignore for an extended period of time, well even a day. You damage your relationship. You put a tear in it that maybe small at first, but it may get bigger. And it can unless you rectify what you did. As Doms we are trusted with the submission of our submissives. It is one of the best gifts anyone can receive. And ignoring them is horrible. It hurts your submissive and your relationship even if you don’t think it will.

To me I see intentional and purposeful ignoring as a form of manipulation. You know what is going on, you know you are not replying and yet you continue on with your day. Frankly I don’t understand how someone can ignore their submissive for any time period. I love talking to baby girl and when we don’t talk yes I do miss her.

Remember this to anyone new in the D/s, DD/lg, BDSM world. Ignoring is not an okay punishment. If anyone punishes you by ignoring you that is a red flag and you should walk away from them. Your submission is a gift that you can take away at any moment. You are the ones in power at the end of the day. Without you..us Doms would be pretty damn lost.

Made this post a bit ago, thought it should be back on my blog

Now what are your thoughts on using ignoring that has clear end points and guidelines? Time outs are functionally just that. 

euthanizeallwhitepeople:

? What’s that? 

The act of hating a man?

Or is this some kind of anti-feminism codeword?

There’s no such thing as “man-hating” as a movement, there’s no “man-hating” association.

If you’re asking what’s my opinion on hating men in general, then.. Go ahead? Men are gross, and I say that as one of them.

I’m generally right with you on most of your posts and opinions, but this one’s misguided and wrong. 

What's your opinion on man-hating? asked by Anonymous
these gender rolls taste disgusting

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antechristaa:

antechristaa:

angstromisanasshole:

dion-thesocialist:

If you have a problem with the statement, “If you can’t afford to tip, don’t eat out,” then please feel free to re-frame it as “If you can’t afford to pay someone, don’t make them work for you.”

An interesting take. Is it…

Doesn’t your income already define what you can and cannot buy ? If you can’t pay, you don’t go up to the cash and attempt to buy an item.

Not really. Between credit cards and assistance people are capable of buying much more than they can “afford”. But that’s not even what this post is talking about. If you go to a restaurant, gratuity is not mandatory. So you can afford to buy the food but not necessarily the extra 15 to 20 person addition need to pay the wage of your server. 

antechristaa:

angstromisanasshole:

dion-thesocialist:

If you have a problem with the statement, “If you can’t afford to tip, don’t eat out,” then please feel free to re-frame it as “If you can’t afford to pay someone, don’t make them work for you.”

An interesting take. Is it really the responsibility of customers to pay the fucking wages of workers because we still have a system that allows employers not to pay their workers? 

Yes, yes it is. As long as the system is flawed, the customer wanting service will have to pay for it.

So are we now policing what people are and are not allowed to attempt to buy based on their income?

dion-thesocialist:

If you have a problem with the statement, “If you can’t afford to tip, don’t eat out,” then please feel free to re-frame it as “If you can’t afford to pay someone, don’t make them work for you.”

An interesting take. Is it really the responsibility of customers to pay the fucking wages of workers because we still have a system that allows employers not to pay their workers? 

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hermionegranger:

Real Time with Bill Maher: 6.6.14 — Anthony Weiner, Jim Geraghety, Nicolle Wallace

#FINALLYSOMEONESAYSIT

Holy shit, Anthony Weiner actually said something important.

It’s a miracle!

That’s been the Republican strategy since day one of Obama’s presidency. Block the President at every turn, then blame him for not getting anything done. In fact, here’s Newt Gingrich openly admitting to it.

That’s why Republicans block jobs bills — so they can blame Obama for the economy still sucking. They’ve blocked budgets, resulting in a government shutdown that they then tried to blame on Obama. They’ve tried over and over again to block Obamacare, and complain that it’s a failure as they work their asses off to try to make it fail.

It’s kindergarten politics, and we need to vote these schmucks out in November. A bunch of white guys throwing temper tantrums and shouting NO! to everything just because they don’t like the president is no way to run a government, especially if we’re going to continue to pretend to be one of the greatest nations on earth.

I always forget this is Anthony Weiner..

Wiener has always been really smart and progressive he just happens to like fucking women who aren’t his wife.

Exactly! Stop focusing on irrelevant shit. He’s a decent and competent politician. I don’t give a fuck about his personal life. 

baggy-and-kitty:

golfdad1992:

Isn’t amazing how people don’t give a shit about misogyny until they can accuse muslims of it in order to justify their islamaphobia?

TRUTH

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